Friday, December 5, 2025

The Discerning Life

 

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2022 BOOK-OF-THE-YEAR

Issue No. 509 of 
Your Weekly Staff Meeting (March 15, 2022) 
features a book (just published today) by Steve Macchia, who confesses, “The older I get, the harder it is to pray.” (I love his authenticity—and the book!) And this reminder: click here to download free resources from the 20 management buckets (core competencies).

Steve Macchia on discernment: “We want a simple system to follow: set up the room, put people in place, consider the right options, add a prayer, and then press the button of discernment.”

“God, what fabric softener do you want me to buy at the store this week?”

Wait! Is this a book on discernment—or an entire PBS season of This Old House? With delightful humor and humility, Steve Macchia’s troubles and travails with his 75-year-old house create the stage for learning and listening—and noticing God’s heart for us. 

Don’t skip Steve’s true stories (and memorable old house metaphors). “Apparently, tomato sauce can expire, and when it does, it explodes.” The porch of heaven (beautiful). Low water pressure issues. Ice dams on the roof from a long winter (dubbed “snowmageddon” and “snowpocalypse”). It gets worse, of course! (The poor guy!)

But, really, this is a hopeful book. The Discerning Life: An Invitation to Notice God in Everything emits the same respectful tone that oozes out of Macchia’s other books (see Crafting a Rule of Life and others). Steve writes with high regard and aspirations for readers and leaders—fellow pilgrims. He confesses, “The older I get, the harder it is to pray.” Steve admits he’s “just a beginner” in this discernment journey, and so with that honest humility, he invites me in. I love this book. 

TAP. TAP. TAP. I’ll never forget the moment when Steve Macchia, speaking to several hundred ministry leaders, asked us to “Tap, Tap, Tap” on a colleague’s shoulder. We faithfully followed his directions, chuckled, and then stopped. And then this classic response from Steve: “Wait! I didn’t tell you to stop tapping!” (More chuckles.) And with that, Steve gifted us with a lifelong metaphor of God as a loving initiator. 

Macchia asks, “But are we aware of his presence? He’s tapping on the shoulder of our hearts all the time: tap, tap, tap . . . tap, tap, tap. As Christ- followers, it’s incumbent upon us to notice the tap and not brush it aside, shun God’s presence, or be so numbed or hardened or oblivious as to miss it altogether.” This book rekindled that moment. I’m so grateful.

“FAR TOO OFTEN, SPIRITUAL DISCERNMENT HAS BEEN PIGEON-HOLED,” Steve writes, “into the exclusive realm of decision-making, learning how to make good choices and know God’s will methodically and predictably. We want a simple system to follow: set up the room, put people in place, consider the right options, add a prayer, and then press the button of discernment.”

He adds, “For some people, spiritual discernment is reserved for major ministry or organizational decisions, like calling the right pastor or determining where to plant a church. For others, it’s a tool used to spiritualize every single decision: God, what fabric softener do you want me to buy at the store this week?”

Why a book on discernment? “There is no more important topic for the church to wrestle with today than to know God, notice him at work in, through, and all around us, and to aid others in embracing and fulfilling the discerning life.” 

With several helpful definitions and commentaries on “discernment,” I especially appreciated this one: “Perceiving and noticing the present, attentive to the now, and in anticipation of the next—like holding hands and looking both ways before safely crossing the street.”

Tall order? Yes! “All of this will take a lifetime to rehearse,” promises Macchia.

LOL! “On a spiritual retreat a handful of years ago, I was sitting with a spiritual mentor, detoxing my hurting soul. I was sharing about feelings of abandonment from those I thought had my best interests in mind but had turned against me. I was not in a good place. After listening to my story, this godly man encouraged me to do one of the strangest things ever suggested to me:

“Wink at myself in the mirror. At least once a day. For the foreseeable future. That sounded so bizarre! But his point was to do this as a reminder of God’s unconditional love for me each day. This spiritual leader shared that our lives will be filled with disappointment, heartache, suffering, and sorrow. That reality we cannot change. But the inner reservoir of our soul can indeed be opened to receive love once more, over and over and over again. That’s the way of God, and if we’re to live a discerning life, it’s to become our way too.” 

ALLERGIC TO SPIRITUAL DEPTH. Macchia is just warming up when he reminds us that “Without a prayer closet, we are destined to live an inch deep and a mile wide. For any number of reasons, we are highly allergic to spiritual depth. We’re guilty of a self-ordained, self-empowered, self-absorbed life. And although we value the priority of prayer and believe in the importance of a prayer closet, we are far too busy for such a notion to be fully realized in our lives. It reeks of weakness. It smacks of ritual. It sounds boring. I used to need it, but it’s no longer necessary. Been there, done that, moving on.

“DEPTH IS SUBTRACTIVE. IT IS NOT ADDITIVE. We don’t dig a hole high; we dig it deep,” writes Macchia. “Similarly, in the spiritual life, depth relates to what’s going on underneath the surface. A deeper life isn’t measured by accumulation, unless what’s gained is more of God. Depth is hidden and mysterious. Depth is experienced most abundantly in relation to what we lose or sacrifice or release. Even depth of knowledge, depth of compassion, depth of character, depth of insight, and depth of contentment require some form of letting go in order to fully receive.” 

Macchia continues, “Preconceived notions need to be released in order for greater knowledge to be received. Creature comforts need to be released in order for compassion to be offered. Humility creates character. Wisdom forms insight. Contentment comes from letting go of that which previously defined you. In spiritual depth, we find life at its fullest by letting go. In so many profound ways, the spiritual life is all about letting go—not always complete detachment (as in the love of our spouse or child), but by holding people and things with a much looser grip, in order to mature as God desires.”

In recent years, I’ve slowly munched on one book for up to six months (just on weekends)—seeking to go slow and deep. Examples: Packer’s Knowing God and Blackaby’s Experiencing God. But…the deep end of the pool can be threatening. Nevertheless, The Discerning Life is my weekend book for the next six months. 

To order from Amazon, click on the title for The Discerning Life: An Invitation to Notice God in Everything, by Stephen Macchia. Listen to the book on Libro.fm (8 hours, 7 minutes). 

 

YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) Here’s an idea—go deep on this book with your team members. The stories are page-turners (think This Old House—the perfect discernment metaphor). The “Practicing a Preference for God” succinct summaries (see “Tap, Tap, Tap”) are so helpful. And the lists…oh, my…the lists! Steve Macchia resists formulaic pious claptrap—and instead—delivers deep and soul-challenging content: discernment definitions (5), discernment postures (12), soul-neglect causes (10), stumbling blocks to listening (10), poignant discernment questions (11), Jesus’ favorite topics (17)—you’ll love the lists! And this reminder: “All of this will take a lifetime to rehearse.” OK team—who will summarize the first chapter at our next staff meeting?

2) Steve Macchia writes, “A consistent visit to your prayer closet fulfills your soul’s deepest longings. A prayer closet can be as simple as a dedicated time and space where you go with Bible, journal, and pen in hand to meet with God, as unhurried, unhindered, and uncluttered as possible. That’s all that’s needed—nothing more; nothing less.” Is “closet” a metaphor here—or does Steve Macchia expect us to actually find a closet for prayer times?
 

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The Volunteer Bucket Core Competency: “We reject the notion of a two-tiered Kingdom workforce. Instead, we seek to treat our paid volunteers (staff) and our unpaid volunteers with equal passion and intentionality. We will never have enough paid staff to accomplish our Kingdom assignments, so we continually hone our skills in volunteer cultivation, recruitment, orientation and engagement.”

Tap! Tap! Tap!—Discernment for Volunteers (i.e. Board Members). Steve Macchia’s “Tap, Tap, Tap” theme is featured in two books by Dan Busby and John Pearson. Read Macchia’s blog commentary on Lessons From the Nonprofit Boardroom (Lesson 11), and read Peter F. Clements’ blog commentary on Lessons From the Church Boardroom (Lesson 11). And click here for the five-minute video conversation with Busby and Pearson, “Tap! Tap! Tap!”


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BIG MISTAKE! Checking the Box, But Missing the Message

MISTAKE #22: 
See Mistake #22 for some notable spiritual discernment books (including a book by Steve Macchia), that helped John discover the difference between discipline and discernment.
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PAILS IN
COMPARISON

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Thursday, December 4, 2025

The Shroud of Turin An Immersive Experience

 

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Issue No. 664 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Dec. 4, 2025) spotlights a “double feature” today: a “museum” review and a stunning book on evidences for a creator God. Plus, click here for recent issues posted at the NEW site for John Pearson’s Buckets Blog, including CEO Ready: What You Need to Know to Earn the Job—and Keep the Job. Also, check out the 20 management buckets (core competencies).


The Shroud of Turin: An Immersive Experience opened Nov. 19, 2025, on the campus of Christ Cathedral in Orange County, Calif. (Read my “review” of this stunning museum and 3-theater experience.)

Pop Quiz!
#1. What is the most studied artifact in history?
#2. What bestselling nonfiction book—with more than 400,000 copies sold—was just published in English in October?
#3. Why is John Pearson writing a “review” of his recent visit to the campus of Christ Cathedral (the former Crystal Cathedral)?

ANSWERS:
#1. The Shroud of Turin is the world’s most studied artifact. (You read that right! Read more.)

#2. With more than 400,000 copies sold, GOD: The Science, The Evidence—The Dawn of a Revolution, by Michel-Yves BollorĂ© and Olivier Bonnassies, was just published in English on Oct. 15, 2025. (Read my review here.)


#3. Well…I’ve written a few movie reviews over the last 20 years in this eNews, but I’ve never described a stunning “immersive experience” for my readers. It’s time! And just in time, “The Shroud of Turin: An Immersive Experience,” a $5-million, 10,000-square-foot museum dedicated to the world’s most studied artifact, opened to the public on Nov. 19, 2025.

Last week, we visited this landmark museum—the largest of its kind—and immersed ourselves into the life and times of Jesus of Nazareth. The experience (plan on about 90 minutes) presents compelling evidence on the purported burial cloth Jesus left behind. More info here:

The Shroud of Turin
An Immersive Experience

Crystal Cathedral Campus, Garden Grove, Calif.
 
Think of this SPECIAL ISSUE of Your Weekly Staff Meeting as a double feature: The Shroud of Turin coupled with an extraordinary book on evidence for a creator God. (Note: the book does not address the science behind The Shroud—but I believe it’s the perfect companion for any “detective” looking for evidence. For books, videos, and resources about The Shroud, visit this webpage.)

Last weekend, my wife, Joanne, and I joined a group of 26 people (maximum number per group) and were stunned (did I mention “stunned”) at the "immersive experience" theater encounters—three unique experiences:

• In the “Immersive Life of Jesus,” the first theater (with swivel seating for 26 people only) features 360-degree immersion technology. Images projected onto the walls and floor recount 12 short stories about the life of Jesus, including the Nativity, when He walked on water, the Transfiguration, and more. Stunning!

•  The second small theater showcases the “Interactive Shroud of Jesus”—a re-creation of Jesus’ tomb. This immersive experience will bring you up-to-speed on the latest scientific evidence about the Shroud and features a short documentary with testimony from Shroud expert Fr. Robert Spitzer, S.J. (former president of Gonzaga University). I won’t issue a spoiler alert here—but just this hint: think “resurrection.” Oh, my.

• The third intimate theater, “Immersive Risen Jesus,” places you in an ancient chapel in Jerusalem during the first century. Projected onto the theater walls are stunning frescoes by gifted artists including Caravaggio, Michelangelo, and da Vinci. (And—oh, my—those frescoes come alive with special animation that spotlights the post-Resurrection stories of Jesus.) 

Following the three immersive theater experiences (about 18 minutes each), you’ll have time to follow your personal interests in the museum exhibits—five featured areas: Scripture, Passion, History, Science, and the Reflection Room. 

The Reflection Room (take your time here) includes a full-size, backlit Shroud replica. You’ll also appreciate a new bronze sculpture by Italian artist Luigi Enzo Mattei. The corpus depicts how the Shroud of Turin suggests Jesus looked: a bearded man about 5 feet, 11 inches tall. 

Note: The original shroud is in Turin, Italy and is not currently on display (the history of how it arrived in Turin is fascinating). Also stunning: the first photograph by photographer Secondo Pia in 1898—“an effort that first uncovered the startling face of a man whose features are consistent with traditional depictions of Jesus of Nazareth.”

The Shroud of Turin: An Immersive Experience is located on the campus of Christ Cathedral, in Garden Grove, Calif. (Orange County). It is a collaborative outreach ministry of Papaian Studios, Othonia Inc., and the Roman Catholic Diocese of Orange. In 2019, the former Crystal Cathedral was dedicated as Christ Cathedral, the spiritual home of the Bishop of Orange.

PERSONAL NOTE. My readers will give me sufficient elbow room, I pray, to give a shout-out here to my son, Jason, and daughter-in-law, Melinda, who have been instrumental in seeing The Shroud of Turin: An Immersive Experience come to fruition—so that people of all faiths and persuasions (including atheists and agnostics) will visit this remarkable museum and ask themselves the primary question of The Shroud and of life: “Who do you say that I am?”

Through their company, FiveHive Studios, Jason and Melinda, along with Kris Hull, are recognized at the museum for their “creative genius.” (Did I mention? I’m stunned at the creativity!) Our grandson, Anderson Pearson, and co-worker Noah Nims, also labored long hours at FiveHive Studios in the final months before the opening.



TO ORDER TICKETS, visit The Shroud: An Immersive Experience website here. More informative about The Shroud here. Read the press release. Read what the L.A. Times and other news outlets are saying. Watch the teaser (1 minute, 16 seconds).


 

YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) The author of the book, Clear Thinking, quotes Charlie Munger (1924-2023), “I never allow myself to have an opinion on anything unless I know the other side’s argument better than they do.” Can you articulate the basic objections to a creator God, and also the evidences for a creator God?

2) According to the book, God The Science The Evidence (see page 296), the authors cite a 2003 study: "Between 1901 and 2000, the 654 Nobel Laureates belonged to 28 different religions. A majority of them (65.4%) identified as Christian." How would you answer the question from Jesus: "Who do you say that I am?"
 
   
SECOND READS: Fresh Solutions From Classic Books
You have changed—and your problems have changed—since you read this the first time!

Book #34 of 99: Call of the Chair

For your team meeting this week, inspire a team member to lead your “10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning” session by featuring Book #34 of 99 in our series, “Second Reads.” The big idea: REREAD TO LEAD! Discover how your favorite books still have more to teach you and the people you’re coaching and mentoring.
 
Call of the Chair:
Leading the Board of the Christ-centered Ministry

by David L. McKenna (March 31, 2017)

McKenna writes: “The chair for a Christ-centered ministry must be called of God as well as elected by the board.” (That would eliminate the speed-voting trick that lands you at the head of the board table—when you’re out of the room. Yikes!)

“When the time comes for a board to elect a new chair,” McKenna adds, “all business should stop while the members reflect in silence and ask that the Spirit of God might give them discernment in their selection.”
   • Reviewed in Issue No. 363 (June 28, 2017).
   • Read my review on Amazon.
   • Order from Amazon.
   • Management Bucket #14 of 20: The Board Bucket.

Short and substantive, McKenna has more—and it’s convicting:
   --4 assessment questions for the board chair
   --5 deficient ways that boards elect chairs
   --Commenting on the “Rotator chair scenario,” McKenna notes: “The idea is that the ministry can survive incompetence for a short period of time.”
   --1 priority: why being board chair must be that person’s number-one priority
   --9 board chair roles: Missionary, Model, Mentor, Manager, Moderator, Mediator, Monitor, Master, and Maestro
   --3 results when the board chair fails to focus on the clarity of the mission: “mushy, muddled, and almost meaningless”
   --60 words in 30 seconds: Jesus’ elevator speech!
 

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GIFT IDEA!
Oak Street Treehouse: The Day They Played Christmas

For your 4- to 8-year-old kids or grandkids, here’s an early Christmas gift idea from Dick Daniels and Mollie Bozarth (Illustrator)—the latest book in The Oak Street Treehouse series, The Day They Played Christmas. (Yes—the same Dick Daniels that writes leadership books!)

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562 Pages!

Read my review of the international bestseller, God, the Science, the Evidence: The Dawn of a Revolution, by Michel-Yves BollorĂ© and Olivier Bonnassies. (Warning! 562 pages!) Or listen on Libro (15 hours, 6 minutes). Listen here to the two-minute purpose of the book. Find more reviews at my Pails in Comparison blog.

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Tuesday, December 2, 2025

Clear Thinking

 

Your Weekly Staff Meeting | John Pearson Associates
2023 BOOK-OF-THE-YEAR

Issue No. 587 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Dec. 13, 2023) 
calls you to a leadership fork-in-the-road: read or listen to 20 management books—or just read the new bestseller, Clear Thinking. And this reminder: click here to download free resources from the 20 management buckets (core competencies). Plus, see below for the podcast with Al Lopus.


The author of the bestseller, Clear Thinking, systematizes his decision-making into three boxes (I would have preferred three buckets). The big question: “What do you value most?” Read the chapter, “Evaluate the Options,” and borrow his “sticky note exercise” at your next staff meeting to discern what you value most.
 
There’s No Class Called "Clear Thinking 101”

The author of Clear Thinking mentions this memorable story about former U.S. Secretary of State Henry Kissinger (1923-2023):
• “A staffer had drafted a memo and left it on Kissinger's desk for him to read. A while later, Kissinger approached him and asked if it was his best work. The staffer said no and rewrote the entire memo. 
• The next day the staffer ran into Kissinger again and asked what he thought. Kissinger asked him again if this was the best he could do. The staffer took the memo and rewrote it yet again. 
• The next morning, the same scenario played out, only this time the poor staffer stated that yes indeed it was his best work. 
• Kissinger replied, ‘Okay, now I'll read it.’”

That insight—and dozens more from a former intelligence agent—is from the New York Times bestseller: 

Here’s my question for you today. Would you rather read ONE book or read 20 books? If you could scan my copy of Clear Thinking, you’d see more than 20 book titles written in the margins. Much like Patrick Lencioni summarized his 20 years of thinking and writing in The Advantage (my 2012 book-of-the-year), so Shane Parrish summarizes, with an extraordinary grasp, many of the must-read leadership and management books. 

If you’re wondering how some of the Ivy League schools apparently missed the boat on educating clear thinkers (breaking news), you’ll find some very helpful analysis in Parrish’s commentary on “The Enemies of Clear Thinking.” 

The author writes, “If you’re like me, no one every taught you how to think or make decisions. There’s no class called Clear Thinking 101 in school.” He adds, “As it turns out, though, learning about thinking—thinking clearly—is surprisingly hard.”

READ 1 BOOK OR READ 20 BOOKS?

#1. TAGLINE. “If there is a tagline to my life, it is ‘Mastering the best of what other people have already figured out,’ and this book is a tribute to that belief.” On his journey, the author writes that he devoured more books than he could count. (I’m wondering if he read another NY Times bestseller, Not Quite What I Was Planning: Six-Word Memoirs by Writers Famous and Obscure.)
 
#2. RESULTS. “In order in order to get the results we desire, we must do two things. We must first create the space to reason in our thoughts, feelings, and actions; and second, we must deliberately use that space to think clearly. Once you have mastered this skill, you will find you have an unstoppable advantage.” (Read A Year with Peter Drucker: 52 Weeks of Coaching for Leadership Effectiveness.)

#3. THE FOUR DEFAULTS (Emotion Default, Ego Default, Social Default, and Inertia Default). “The ego default: we tend to react to anything that threatens our sense of self-worth or our position in a group hierarchy.” (This reminded me of Andrew Murray’s classic, Humility.)

#4. NO JOY AT WORK. “One reason people find it hard to empower others at work is that having them depend on us for every decision makes us feel important and indispensable.” (Read The Decision Maker and Joy at Work, both by Dennis Bakke.)

#5. QUIET QUITTING. “One example I've seen too many times in the workplace is when you stop putting in 100% of what you are capable of because you feel underappreciated.” (Read Stay Sane in an Insane World: How to Control the Controllables and Thrive. Note: Stay Sane, apparently, is working for the University of Michigan's football team.)

#6. THE SOCIAL DEFAULT. The author quotes Princeton professor Robert George: “I sometimes ask students what their position on slavery would have been had they been white and living in the South before abolition. Guess what? They all would have been abolitionists! They all would have bravely spoken out against slavery, and worked tirelessly against it.” (View the episodes on the small-pox epidemic in a Welsh mining town in Season 2 of the Amazon Prime drama series, The Indian Doctor).

#7. BEST PRACTICES? “If you do what everyone else does, you’ll get the same results that everyone else gets. Best practices aren’t always the best. By definition, they’re average.” Parrish adds, “The ‘zone of average’ is a dangerous place when it comes to inertia.” (Read Roger Martin’s 2022 book, A New Way to Think.)

#8. THE INERTIA DEFAULT. “The inertia default pushes us to maintain the status quo. Starting something is hard, but so too is stopping something. We resist change even when change is for the best.” (Read Necessary Endings: The Employees, Businesses, and Relationships That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Move Forward, by Dr. Henry Cloud.)

#9. COMPLAINING! In the chapter on self-accountability (one of four strengths you need), the author quotes Jeff Bezos: “Complaining is not a strategy. You have to work with the world as you find it, not as you would have it be.” Parrish’s transparency in this chapter is remarkable. (Read The Amazon Management System.)

#10. HIRING INSIGHT. Parrish asked the CEO of a large public company, “If you could pick one trait that would predict how someone would turn out, what would it be?” The CEO’s response: “That’s easy. How willing are they to change their mind about what they think they know.” (Read another “thinking” book, Both/And Thinking.)

#11. THE WARM WATER. Note: Today’s university demonstrators (and some presidents) should study this book. Parrish writes, “The real test of a person is the degree to which they are willing to nonconform to do the right thing.” He adds, “And once you dive into the warm water of group acceptance, it’s hard to get back out. The social default strikes again!” (Read Hardwiring New Leadership Habits.)

#12. JERKS. “We unconsciously become what we’re near. If you work for a jerk, sooner or later you’ll become one yourself. If your colleagues are selfish, sooner or later you become selfish." (Read The Boys in the Boat and view the movie coming Dec. 25.) 

The Boys in the Boat bestseller is now a major motion picture (coming Dec. 25, 2023). View the trailer. This true story spotlights the power of teamwork and mutual respect.

#13. CHARLIE MUNGER. In the “Building Strengths” section, there are two must-read short chapters: “Setting the Standards” and “Exemplars + Practice.” In the latter, Parrish quotes Charlie Munger (1924-2023), “I never allow myself to have an opinion on anything unless I know the other side’s argument better than they do.” (Read about the WSJ reporter's recent four-hour interview with Munger.)

#14. RULE-MAKING. “To protect yourself from the influence of the social default, you decide to implement a safeguard. You form a rule for yourself: never say yes to something important without thinking it over for a day.” (Read Steve Macchia’s book, Crafting a Rule of Life, and understand why slow decision-making is difficult for Drivers and Expressives, per the four social styles.)

#15. NFL EXCELLENCE. The author affirms the high standards set by numerous NFL coaches including Bill Walsh, Bill Belichick (he’s having a tough season!), and Pete Carroll. Parrish writes, “Champions don’t create the standards of excellence. The standards of excellence create champions.” (Read Culture Is the Way, by Matt Mayberry, former Chicago Bears linebacker.)

#16. EXEMPLARS. “Show me your role models and I’ll show you your future.” Read why you should recruit “your personal board of directors,” an idea he borrowed from Jim Collins. (Listen to Shane Parrish’s podcast with Jim Collins. And read the HBR Press book (96 pages, 2017) from Collins, Turning Goals Into Results. 

#17. WEAKNESSES. “The formula for failure is a few small errors consistently repeated.” (Read Little Bets.)

#18. BLIND SPOTS. Parrish says we fail to see our weaknesses for three reasons. Reason #2: “…seeing our flaws bruises our egos—especially when those flaws are behaviors that are deeply ingrained." (Read: What Got You Here Won’t Get You There.)

#19. EXPERTS VS. IMITATORS. I’ll bet you’ve never read five tips on “how to approach an expert in a way that will set your request apart and get people excited to help you.” (Must-read!) Plus, “Take time to distinguish real experts from imitators. Not everyone who claims to be an expert is. Take the time to know the difference." (Read Drucker & Me: What a Texas Entrepreneur Learned from the Father of Modern Management.)

#20. FINISH LINE. The author’s final section, “Wanting What Matters,” is less helpful for people of faith, but he does note, “Evaluating your life through the lens of your death is raw, powerful, and perhaps a bit scary.” I’d suggest you skip “Section 5” and read, instead, Robert Wolgemuth’s excellent 2023 book, Finish Line: Dispelling Fear, Finding Peace, and Preparing for the End of Your Life.

So…read 1 book or read 20 books? You decide!
 
To order from Amazon, click on the title for Clear Thinking: Turning Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Results, by Shane Parrish. Listen on Libro (6 hours, 41 minutes). And thanks to the publisher for sending me a review copy.


 
YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) Clear Thinking is both a 101 course and a master’s class in decision-making. The chart on page 185 on “Types of Decisions” is worth the price of the book. Two axes: Consequential and Reversible. Plus, see the chart on page 120: the five steps of “The Decision-Making Process.” How many decisions will you make this week? How many books have you read on effective decision-making?

2) The chapter on “Margin of Safety” notes the “bullets before cannonballs” management practice in Great by Choice, by Jim Collins and Morten Hansen. Shane Parrish suggests you create a “margin of safety” in your hiring process by giving two or three candidates a “small test project” to see who looks good in practice, not just on paper! How effective are we in our decision-making and in recognizing the four enemies of clear thinking?

3) Clear Thinking spotlights a new CEO who took a sledgehammer to 76 of the company’s substandard refrigerators and smashed them to pieces—while employees watched! The CEO kept that sledgehammer “in a glass case in the boardroom for the remainder of his tenure, as a symbol of the high standard he expected from the company.” Read more. What’s encased in your boardroom?
 
    
Mastering 100 Must-Read Books
Part 10: White House/Fight House

Book #57 of 100: The Gatekeepers

For your team meeting this week, inspire a team member to lead your “10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning” session by featuring Book #57 in Mastering 100 Must-Read Books. 
The Gatekeepers: 
How the White House Chiefs of Staff 
Define Every Presidency

by Chris Whipple

Books #56 through #60 spotlight five books on U.S. presidents in the section, “White House/Fight House.” The Gatekeepers highlights leadership insights from the White House chiefs of staff. The competency continuum runs from Erskine Bowles’ “missionary zeal for management” to Bill Daley who got shingles from stress after serving President Barack Obama. The book was so fascinating, I wrote two reviews.
   • Read my review.
   • Order from Amazon: The Gatekeepers
   • Listen on Libro (12 hours, 13 minutes).
   • Download the 100 Must-Read Books list (from John and Jason Pearson).

TRUE OR FALSE? Read my review for the True or False questions on each of the 23 White House gatekeepers. Example:

DONALD RUMSFELD, 1st Chief to President Gerald Ford (1974-75). (See also my review of Rumsfeld's Rules.)
[  ] T/F: Rumsfeld convinced Ford that the “spokes of the wheel” organizational chart didn’t work. Ford noted, “Without a strong decision-maker who could help me set my priorities, I’d be hounded to death by gnats and fleas. I wouldn’t have time to reflect on basic strategy or the fundamental direction of the presidency.”
[  ] T/F: “Genial and outgoing, Gerald Ford saw the best in everybody; it was Rumsfeld’s job to suspect the worst.”
[  ] T/F: Advice to Rahm Emmanuel: “Immediately pick your successor.”
 

  
            


 

PEARPOD | TELLING YOUR STORY. 
Sure…you and your team could read or listen to 20 books on marketing and communication (here’s one!)—or just cut to the chase and invite a creative facilitator to help you discern your storytelling next steps. Need help? Contact Jason Pearson at 
Pearpod (Design, Digital, Marketing, Social).

Al Lopus Asks John  About “Board No-Nos”

Al Lopus, co-founder of Best Christian Workplaces, interviewed John recently on The Flourishing Culture Leadership Podcast. Listen to Episode 367, "Behind the Boardroom Curtain: Best Practices, No-Nos, and Workplace Wisdom.” After a board member skipped out on John’s training session, listen to John’s aha! moment. 

On the podcast, Al asks John for his five favorite lessons from the book, Lessons From the Nonprofit Boardroom, by Dan Busby (1941-2022) and John.

 IMPORTANT NOTICE! Effective Oct. 1, 2025, all 657 eNews issues, previously archived on Typepad.com are slowly (!) being moved to this website. New book reviews will also be archived here at John Pearson’s Buckets Blog. And/or, click here for John’s recent book reviews on Amazon.

Monday, December 1, 2025

Lead With Prayer

 

Your Weekly Staff Meeting | John Pearson Associates
2024 BOOK-OF-THE-YEAR

Issue No. 591 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Jan. 17, 2024) 
urges you to read (not delegate) a new book for leaders on the power of prayer. Plus, click here to download free resources from the 20 management buckets (core competencies). Plus, click here for the updated lists of books reviewed since 2006.


Decision Time! Will you delegate your reading of Lead With Prayer—or will you read it yourself first? (See my recommendation below.)
 
A One-Word Prayer!

Ryan Skoog writes about being at the National Prayer Breakfast “in a breakout session for business leaders. A French Canadian businessman stood up to pray. He was a wise and accomplished leader with thousands of employees. But what most affected the room was his prayer—more specifically, the single word he prayed.

“He closed his eyes and uttered the word Jesus. The reality of Jesus in that moment was so overwhelming that individuals in the room were moved to tears. It was undeniable that this man had spent a lot of time with Jesus. In just one word, just one mention of the name of Jesus, the room filled with the presence of God, and he did not need to say another word.”

That moment was an example of a “fast prayer” and a “slowing-down” type of prayer. The authors explain on pages 25-26 (there’s that page 25 rule-of-thumb again) in this powerful book just published Jan. 16, 2024:
Lead with Prayer:
The Spiritual Habits of World-Changing Leaders

by Ryan Skoog, Peter Greer, and Cameron Doolittle
 
The authors add, “Saying the name Jesus and pausing was a fast prayer for this leader, but the power of that moment came from this deep well of extended slow praying for years.”

Oh, my. When I read the last page of this very special book, I wondered how-in-the-world I could communicate its importance to you. Should I take a page from the French Canadian businessman and just write a one-word review? Maybe not. But if my review is too long, you might just delete—and move on.

Then (duh!), I prayed. The Lord prompted me to email a few friends—asking them to pray for me as I prepared to write this review. So this morning, I began with this prayer, “Lord, I can hardly wait to see the review You’re going to write!”


Lead With Prayer is not formulaic. Lead With Prayer is not a guilt trip. Instead, Lead With Prayer will open the doors wide to new possibilities for leaders who know God—and want to summon the Powers of Heaven for their relationships, their to-do lists, and their leadership competencies. Think you know what a book on prayer looks like? Think again. Oh, my.

The authors invested three years in research and over 100 hours of interviews with leaders across the globe. (I love the international stories.) They asked leaders about their very personal and private prayer habits. How? When? Where? Why? You’ve never read anything like this. And Ryan, Peter, and Cameron transparently share their own missteps in prayerlessness. (Amazing.) The reality: none of us are spiritual giants. And this I affirm: learning more about the spiritual habits of God-honoring leaders—it changed me.

We learn that God’s creativity shines in the prayer lives of many of His highly creative leaders. (Attn: Pastors! Every chapter will preach.) In “Leaders Practice the Presence of God,” the authors share prayer habits for Meals, Meetings, Moods, Moments, and Reminders.

The “Meetings” notes reminded me of the time I asked Scott Rodin to pray during a training session with leaders. I suggested that Scott might pray for this, and this, and this, and this… (honest—I did that!). So Scott simply prayed, “Lord, what John just said—ditto!” And then he sat down. And yes, everyone laughed!

The book’s section on “One-Sentence Prayers” notes Ernest Hemingway’s boast to other authors that he could write a short story in six words. His entry: “Baby shoes. For sale. Never used.” Do you every talk to our Holy God with one-sentence prayers? The authors list six times Jesus used a life-changing single sentence. The chapter concludes with 33 one-sentence prayers. My favorite: “Lord, what do You want?” (This reminded me of the “Tap. Tap. Tap.” principle I learned from Steve Macchia.)

Lead With Prayer features dozens of authentic moments into the private prayer lives of leaders. (Just stunning.) An oil company CFO confesses he was “a left-brained accountant from a left-brained faith tradition” and considered himself an unlikely advocate for prayer. “I concluded we were functional deists. We believed God existed, but we didn’t really believe He did anything—or at least that He did anything in response to our prayers. Otherwise, we would pray more.” (In the chapter, “Leaders Kneel Before the Lord,” you’ll read about this CPA’s dramatic turnaround and his new prayer habit when invited to team meetings at his church. You won’t believe it!)

Each chapter concludes with a prayer and a prayer tool. There’s something for every unique leader—and every unique learning style. Have you ever prayed with someone using the “Hands Downward, Hands Upward” prayer habit?

Chapter 5, “Leaders Pray Through Tough Times,” quotes St. Oscar Romero, “There are many things that can only be seen through eyes that have cried.” Ryan Skoog agrees. He writes, “The year 2020 was when I (Ryan) got used to the smell of my carpet. Night after night, I lay on my face crying out to God to save us.” COVID had devasted his international travel technology business—and his family had lost their life’s savings.

He shares a poignant family moment. His daughter was plagued with nightmares every night with “graphic visions of evil spirits coming to her saying they were going to torture young girls in Nepal.” (Ryan’s family prays regularly for their nonprofit that rescues young women from trafficking.) His daughter would wake up “so traumatized that she would run to the bathroom and vomit.” Many mornings she would plead, “Daddy, make them stop, make them stop…” (Do you believe in the power of prayer? You must read Chapter 5.)

The book features three sections: 
• How Leaders Prioritize Prayer 
• How Leaders Grow in Their Prayer Life
• How Leaders Multiply Prayer Within Their Organizations (Example: Is prayer a line item in your budget?)

Warning! I regularly urge leaders to “delegate their reading.” But…you might not want to do that for this book. The bookends in Lead With Prayer are memorable. The front bookend features the verse from Jeremiah 10:21. “The shepherds are senseless and do not inquire of the Lord; so they do not prosper and all their flock is scattered.” The back bookend features a convicting case study with a noble initiative. The executive director of a grant-making foundation hatched a plan “…that would unleash prayer across America to transform the nation.” The board approved a $1 million budget.

Oops! They funded a gathering of CEOs of major American prayer ministries, built a strategy, produced a vision-casting video, and funded grant requests. Yet! “Despite these strategies and a lot of compelling ‘activity,’ the efforts stalled after months of work. Wanting to kindle a fire, they barely lit a spark.”

Fast forward. As the foundation executive prepared to give his board the bad news, he asked God why their bold plan had not worked. God’s response to the exec: “You’re multiplying by zero.” He learned that his “efforts to replicate prayer across the nation were doomed to fail because he was not yet a person of prayer. He felt that the Spirit was instructing, ‘You can’t replicate what you do not possess.’” (Read the case study for the good news that came later.)

I pray that this review will prompt you and the leaders and people you influence to read this powerful book. And me? I plan to read this book again on weekends over the next few months—slowly. My prayer: “Lord, what do You want?”

To order from Amazon, click on the title for Lead with Prayer: The Spiritual Habits of World-Changing Leaders, by Ryan Skoog, Peter Greer, and Cameron Doolittle. Listen on Libro (7 hours, 39 minutes).



P.S. Cameron Doolittle is also the author of Joy Giving: Practical Wisdom from the First Christians and the Global Church (read my review). Peter Greer is the author of 15 books, including The Gift of Disillusionment: Enduring Hope for Leaders After Idealism Fades (read my review). 
 
YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) Perhaps 2024 will be characterized as the year when Christ-followers became more committed to praying. Two other books popped up as I was reading Lead With Prayer:
• Talking to God Using Ten Psalms, by Elmer L. Towns (Jan. 2, 2024) – Watch for my review. Order from Amazon.
•  A Well-Planted Faith in an Uprooted Culture: Praying in the Now: A 30-Day Devotional, by Ed McDowell (Nov. 25, 2023) – Watch for my review. Order from Amazon. What book has most energized your understanding of prayer?

2) Reading Lead With Prayer reminded me of several other books on prayer that I often recommend to others. What insights on prayer have you gleaned most recently? Check out these books:
• Leadership Prayers, by Richard Kriegbaum (read my review)
• A Comedian's Prayer Book, by Frank Skinner (read my review)
• The Discerning Life: An Invitation to Notice God in Everything, by Stephen Macchia (my 2022 book-of-the-year) – Read my review.
• Click here to read why Gary Haugen, who is noted in Lead With Prayer, gave each team members at International Justice Mission a journal titled, “8:30 Stillness.”
 
    
Mastering 100 Must-Read Books
Part 11: Hall of Fame Sports Stories

Book #61 of 100: The Boys in the Boat

For your team meeting this week, inspire a team member to lead your “10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning” session by featuring Book #61 in Mastering 100 Must-Read Books. 
The Boys in the Boat:
Nine Americans and Their Epic Quest for Gold
at the 1936 Berlin Olympics 

by Daniel James Brown

Books #61 through #65 spotlight five stunning sports stories with leadership and management lessons. And how’s this for timing? Book #61 is now a movie! The Boys in the Boat includes my pick for the most exquisite description—I’ve ever read—of what a high-performance team looks like. 
   • Read my review.
   • Order from Amazon: The Boys in the Boat
   • Listen on Libro (14 hours, 24 minutes)
   • Download the 100 Must-Read Books list (from John and Jason Pearson).

One of the University of Washington coxswains would often shout to the eight oarsmen, “MIB! MIB! MIB!” The author writes, “The initialism stood for ‘mind in boat.’ It was meant as a reminder that from the time an oarsman steps into a racing shell until the moment that the boat crosses the finish line, he must keep his mind focused on what is happening inside the boat.” What acronym could your team use to keep everyone focused?

Team-building idea. Watch the movie together!
 

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PEARPOD | TELLING YOUR STORY. 
When five of us snagged the best seats in the theater recently to view the new movie, The Boats in the Boat, I wondered if the storytelling would be as powerful as the audio book. It was! The storytelling in the new book, Lead With Prayer, is also memorable and meaningful. How’s your organization’s storytelling? Need help? Contact Jason Pearson at 
Pearpod (Design, Digital, Marketing, Social). And check out our new company, FiveHive Studios.

Nonprofit Sustainability

  Issue No. 257 of  Your Weekly Staff Meeting  (Sept. 30, 2012) introduces a brilliant matrix on nonprofit sustainability—and I predict you...