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Tuesday, October 6, 2026

7 Seconds to Success

 

Your Weekly Staff Meeting | John Pearson Associates
Issue No. 262 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Dec. 8, 2012) highlights a new tool for relating to the four distinct social styles on your team: Thinkers, Tellers, Touchers, and Talkers.  And don’t miss the link in this issue to the six short humorous videos detailing how all four styles celebrate Christmas.  Plus, check out my Management Buckets website with dozens of resources and downloadable worksheets for your staff meetings.
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The Ready-Aim-Aim-Aim-Aim Syndrome

If you’re a long-time reader, you know I embrace “The 3 Powerful S’s” because to ignore the synergistic impact of Strengths, Spiritual Gifts, and Social Styles is to ignore the amazing creativity and uniqueness of the people we live with, work with, worship with, and yes, cringe with.

So when a new quick-reading tool on social styles appears, I’m all over it.  Written in the popular novelette/story format, this week’s tool (just 143 pages) can be read in about 90 minutes. 
 
Forget the 16 grids and confusing letter combinations of Myers-Briggs (ENTJ, INTJ, etc.).  Skip the four animals system (“I can’t remember—am I a collie, a muskrat or a hippo?”)  Don’t waste time on the personality color systems, unless everyone in your circle is a color zealot (and they’re not).
 
If you want to effectively relate to people, literally in an instant, then order 7 Seconds to Success. It’s a fast read and co-authors Bob Phillips and Gary Coffey have a new, easy-to-remember slant:
   •Analyticals are Thinkers
   •Amiables are Touchers
   •Drivers are Tellers
   •Expressives are Talkers
 
The Four T’s are descriptive and memorable and the story builds the case for understanding these styles—and why it’s so important that you do. (Heads up all spouses, leaders, pastors, account reps, fundraisers, teachers, trainers, volunteer coordinators, CEOs, managers—and those who must “manage” their managers.)
 
The authors remind us that there are three key factors in effective communication:
   •Content (7%)
   •Tone of Voice (38%)
   •Nonverbal Behavior (55%)
 
“It’s easy to get into sloppy habits when it comes to dealing with customers, clients and prospects. We need to become more alert in reading the people we meet. Lord Chesterfield said, ‘Look in the face of the person to whom you are speaking if you wish to know his real sentiments, for he can command his words more easily than his countenance.”
 
And this zinger: “When it comes to our own behavior, we judge ourselves by our motivations. When it comes to other people’s behavior, we judge them by their actions and words.”
 
You can recognize styles—in an instant—by observing pace and priority. Two pairs have the same priority:
   •Thinkers and Tellers focus on tasks.
   •Touchers and Talkers focus on relationships.
 
Two pairs have the same pace:
   •Thinkers and Touchers tend to be slower-paced.
   •Tellers and Talkers tend to be faster-paced.
 
Where’s the conflict? Yikes! Two pairs have nothing in common:
   •Thinkers and Talkers: huge potential for conflict!
   •Touchers and Tellers: neither pace nor priority in common.
 
Can you really read a person’s style—and make them comfortable—in just seven seconds? Yes. I’ve been a student of social styles for more than 30 years—and the authors are correct. You can relate to people in an instant, and by doing so, you’ll advance the relationship by leveraging (not manipulating) a person’s style.
 
If you’re in the already-convinced circle of social style evangelists, you’ll still benefit with one more tool. I’ve counted at least a dozen more insights (and PowerPoint slides) I’ve gleaned from just one quick read:
 
Advice for Thinkers: “Be willing to make decisions. That’s the most important quality of a good leader.” Don’t fall victim to what T. Boone Pickens calls, the “ready-aim-aim-aim-aim syndrome. You must be willing to fire.”
 
Who are the Talkers? Bob Hope, Jay Leno, Star Trek’s Captain Kirk, Donald Duck, and the apostle Peter. “If a Talker’s house was on fire, he would say, ‘Since the house is on fire, let’s warm ourselves.’ They’re very charismatic, friendly and enthusiastic.” 
 
What annoys Tellers? Boredom, details, excuses, indecisiveness, small talk, and taking orders. (The book has the master list of annoyances for all four styles.)
 
What do Touchers value? Approval, coaching, comfort, compassion, friendliness, kindness, loyalty and peacefulness. (Each style has a very distinct list of what they value.)
 
I’ve reviewed other social styles books previously, including two by prolific writer Bob Phillips (11 million books in print). If you’re new to social styles, start with this latest one. Just go to Amazon and click on the title for 7 Seconds to Success: How to Effectively Relate to People in an Instant, by Gary Coffey and Bob Phillips.
 
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Your Weekly Staff Meeting Questions:
1) The authors say you can relate to the four social styles by remembering the 4 P’s. “With Thinkers, be precise. With Tellers, be practical, With Touchers, be personal. With Talkers, be positive.”  List three people you work with (including your boss or board chair) and identify their style—and how, by being versatile with your style, you will bless them and make them more effective.

2) Tracom Group, “the creator of Social Style®,” features the “Social Style Tip of the Day” on their website. For your staff Christmas gathering this month, select one of the six short videos showing how each Style might behave during the holiday season. Then ask, “Which style makes the best party planner—and why?”
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Meetings for the 4 Social Styles
Insights from Mastering the Management Buckets: 20 Critical Competencies for Leading Your Business or Nonprofit

One of the big ideas in Chapter 20, The Meetings Bucket, in my book, Mastering the Management Buckets, is to plan meetings with all four social styles in mind:
 
   --Drivers (Tellers) prefer shorter, get-to-the-point meetings. Give each Driver a crystal clear “To-Do” at the end of each meeting.
   --Amiables (Touchers) are disappointed when meetings ignore relational issues—and there is no time to get better acquainted with the people next to them.
   --Expressives (Talkers) are motivated in meetings when there is a focus on the future—and there’s fun, humor and EXCITING topics!
   --Analyticals (Thinkers) appreciate advance agendas, information, time to reflect, and a well-organized meeting process.
 
When you plan a meeting solely around your own style, you’ll disappoint and alienate 75 percent of your participants. Instead, become a student of the people in your room and engage all four styles. Good luck at your next meeting! 
 
Read Chapter 7 (The People Bucket) and Chapter 20 (The Meetings Bucket) for more details and check out the resources on the Meetings Bucket webpage, including Resource #20.4, “My Annual Professional Development Plan (PDP)” template. 
  
 

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Saturday, September 26, 2026

3 LOL Books

 

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Issue No. 480 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (July 14, 2021) recommends three LOL books for your summer lite reading from a comedian, a best-selling joke book author and cartoonist, and a historian. And this reminder: click here to download free resources from the 20 management buckets (core competencies) and click here for the new book from John Pearson and Jason Pearson, Mastering Mistake-Making: My 25 Memorable Mistakes—And What I Learned. See Mistake #6 below.


What book will you pick? Funny, funnier, or funniest?


3 LOL Books for Summer Lite Reading!

It’s summer here in the Northern Hemisphere—and time for some lite reading (or listening). Pick one of these three LOL rib-ticklers:

LOL #1 - A COMEDIAN’S PRAYER BOOK
British comedian Frank Skinner pairs his superb imagination to his faith journey and delivers (okay I’ll say it) a laugh-out-loud 106-page delight, A Comedian’s Prayer Book. He confesses, “The title is a worry, isn’t it?”

But no worries. No lightning strikes if you read it. It’s deep and wide—LOL-funny with poke-in-the-ribs (pie-in-the-face?) theological musings. He prays:

“One of the joys of prayer is that you get all my references. I could do a joke about El Greco or Efrem Zimbalist Jr, but there’ll never be any need for footnotes. It’s beautiful. You’re the audience I’ve always dreamt of.”

Using theatrical terminology, Skinner sets the stage: “…I’ve tried to retain the bare candour of the simple rehearsal-room improvisation, but infused it with all the production values required to make it a passable public entertainment. I’ve taken my convictions, my questions, my fears, my doubts, my elations, and presented them in what I think is an eavesdropper-friendly form. Hell, judgement, atheism, money, faith and the X-Men all feature.”

“So, this rich man, camel, eye-of-a-needle thing.” It’s probable that this thinking-man’s comedian has plumbed the depths of Matthew 19:24 far deeper than most of us. In his prayer, he admits “Yes, I have a few bob in my pocket…” so looking for loopholes, he wonders, “Imagine if there’s one word missing from the Gospel text, an exhausted scribe rendering an understandable error.” Maybe it really reads, “It’s easier for a camel eyelash to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to get into Heaven? At last, I could enjoy some of this money I’ve worked so hard for.”

Noting that the TK Maxx stores in Britain sell bargain buddhas (yet also flyswatters!), he suggests to the Lord, “So why didn’t I see a single Jesus for sale? I’m not here to lecture you about marketing, but it worries me that we’ve lost so much ground with the I’m-up-for-a-little-bit-of-spirituality crowd.” His prayer continues:

“I know our biggest seller is the crucifix and, of course, it’s been a Christian symbol for two thousand years. It is an enormous inspiration to me, personally, and I have, more than once, wept as I’ve knelt before it. I just wonder if it’s a symbol with something of a specialist appeal? Has an interior designer ever suggested a room needed something torture-themed?” (He suggests a more “user-friendly” symbol for people outside the Faith.)

He prays for “the chosen, the accepters and refusers. This is the kind of work I feel suited for, petitioning you on behalf of the heroes and the deserters, my eyes to the floor, last-three-pews.”He’s comfortable (but with guilt)—like many of us—with a self-conscious level of church involvement: “I’m a last-three-pews Catholic. I don’t want to be organising the Harvest Festival. I put money on the plate, but I don’t even want to be the guy who takes the plate around.”

Warning: your second read through A Comedian’s Prayer Book delights/convicts even more:
   • The honesty—extraordinary.
   • The humility—quotable.
   • The humor—off-the-charts. (I’d fly to London for an evening of conversation between Frank Skinner and Father Darrin Merlino, CMF, author of 30 Days Unplugged: How a Catholic Priest Turned Off His iPhone and Took a Call From God.)

On the Lord’s Prayer (“It’s that bit when you conduct an impromptu prayer-workshop, offering advice and examples for the would-be kneeler.”), this comedian prays:

“When someone asks me, directly, about doing a charity gig or opening a fete or something, I always tell them to speak to my agent. It gets me off the hook. I like the idea that, when you returned to Heaven, the Father said, ‘Did you tell them about prayer?’ and you said, ‘Yes. I told them to call you’. I imagine there was a resulting loud creak, like an oak tree splitting, as the Almighty’s eyebrows were raised, followed by a hurricane-like sigh.”

Enjoy this special book—and don’t miss Skinner’s running gag, “The Devil has all the best tunes,” deployed humorously across a hundred LOL pages. Click here to view a six-minute interview with the author, excerpted from the BBC’s Song of Praise telecast.


Click here to view a BBC interview with Frank Skinner (6 min.).

To order this book from Amazon, click on the title for A Comedian’s Prayer Book, by Frank Skinner.



LOL #2 - LAUGHTER THERAPY: GOOD MEDICINE TO MAKE YOUR HEART GLAD

After COVID (we pray it’s “after” asap)…we’ll all need therapy and—just in time—my favorite joke book guru and bestselling author, Bob Phillips, has teamed up with cartoonist Jonny Hawkins to deliver the perfect summer read, Laughter Therapy: Good Medicine to Make Your Heart Glad. Here’s a funny one from the 168 pages of hot-off-the-press jokes and cartoons:

SHOCK! “A minister was asked to inform a man with a heart condition that he had just inherited a million dollars. Everyone was afraid the shock would cause a heart attack and the man would die.

“The minister went to the man’s house and said, ‘Joe what would you do if you inherited a million dollars?’ Joe responded, ‘Well, Pastor, I think I would give half of it to the church.’

“And the minister fell over dead.”


To order this book from Amazon, click on the title for Laughter Therapy: Good Medicine to Make Your Heart Glad, by Jonny Hawkins and Bob Phillips. And thanks to Bob for sending me this hilarious review copy!



LOL #3 - HUMORISTS: FROM HOGARTH TO NOEL COWARD

Here’s a third LOL option for your summer reading. Humorists is a very satisfying book/comedic journey from historian Paul Johnson who channels W.C. Fields: “We know what makes people laugh. We do not know why they laugh.” (Read my review from April Fools’ Day 2015.)

Johnson, with his unique style of short historical chapters, elegant writing, and deep insights, delivers a cavalcade of comedy—while spotlighting an amazing list of humorists and their secret formulas for making us laugh. 

3 CLERGYMEN DON’T WALK INTO A BAR. If you’re looking for a joke book, this is not it. If you’d enjoy a deep dive into a British historian’s hunches on humor—have at it.

Johnson profiles 15 humorists including Benjamin Franklin, G.K. Chesterton, Toulouse-Lautrec, W.C. Fields, Laurel and Hardy, The Marx Brothers, James Thurber, Noel Coward, and others. He includes Groucho’s famous line, “I don’t want to belong to a club which would have me as a member.”

I started at the back of the book with Johnson’s four-page color commentary on how he came to write Humorists. Fascinating! (And...my thanks to David Curry, who often makes me laugh, for recommending this and all of Paul Johnson's books.)

To order this book from Amazon, click on the title for Humorists: From Hogarth to Noel Coward, by Paul Johnson. Are you a listener? Listen to the book on Libro.fm (7 hours). 



YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) Comedian Frank Skinner prays and affirms Jesus’ request that “when we do charitable works, we should do them in secret.” His prayer acknowledges, “This advice makes complete sense, but it has, nevertheless, almost certainly cost me an MBE [Member of the Most Excellent Order of the British Empire].” LOL! Okay, colleagues—let’s have a gut-check discussion about our motivations for charitable giving and acts of service. Is our generosity genuine?
#2. Skinner prays further, “Early Christianity feels like a thin person’s game. Hence ‘enter by the narrow gate’. That would certainly explain why five loaves and two fishes was more than enough for the five thousand—‘Thanks, but I don’t really do bread’. I wish the Bible gave a name to the first fat Christian. It must have been like when Heaven’s entrance-conditions were broadened to include the Gentiles.” LOL! Do your prayers include humor? Does God laugh?
 

 
In 2004, the staff at CMA (now CLA) awarded John the first ANNUAL MEATLOAF AWARD—not exactly an honor (per Pearson’s Mistake #6).
 

MISTAKE #6 of 25: 
Prioritizing Convenience Over Generosity 

Insights from Mastering Mistake-Making: My 25 Memorable Mistakes—And What I Learned

“I failed to inspire and give permission for the staff to call audibles.” That’s the subtitle of Mistake #6 in the new book by John Pearson with Jason Pearson. Too focused on production, John had not yet read the mistake-making insights from Leadership for Dummies, and this wisdom from Ken Blanchard and Don Shula: “Winning coaches make their teams audible-ready.”

For Mistake #6, John shares what he learned from two books:
   • Leadership Smarts: Inspiration and Wisdom from the Heart of a Leader, by Ken Blanchard
   • The New One Minute Manager, by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson, MD
 

Click here to view the list of all 25 mistakes and read the introduction to Mastering-Mistake Making. To order this book from Amazon, click on the title for Mastering Mistake-Making: My 25 Memorable Mistakes—And What I Learned (10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning Workbook), by John Pearson with Jason Pearson.


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MISTAKE #7:
Minimizing Murphy’s Law.
 I was not yet a believer that “If anything can go wrong, it will.” 
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