Sunday, March 1, 2026

Glad I Didn't Know

 

Your Weekly Staff Meeting | John Pearson Associates
Issue No. 630 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Dec. 11, 2024) suggests a powerful book with 32 of my favorite stories—a perfect gift book for Christmas. Plus, click here to see book recommendations in all 20 management buckets (core competencies). Also, read my recent review of When Kingdom Light Shines: Stories That Inspire Faith.


In one of my favorite chapters in Glad I Didn’t Know, this Mother Teresa billboard prompted Larry Probus to call his wife on the way to work. “I give up,” he told her!
 
Christmas Gift Idea #2:
Speed Bumps & Life Lessons

Can I be honest with you? I was so pumped about the 60 stories from Mark Ellis in my most recent eNews that I’m wondering: How can I now move on to another book that also requires high praise? Perhaps you have two friends and need two Christmas gift books? If so, here’s my Christmas Gift Idea #2:
 What’s not to like about a “lessons” book? By my count, I have reviewed dozens of books with "lessons" in the title or subtitle. (Examples: Maxwell, Drucker, San Quentin, Pope John Paul II, Panera, Mayo Clinic, and many more.)  

Ready for more life lessons? Where do you land on this continuum?

I WANT TO KNOW NOW...............GLAD I DIDN'T KNOW

Before this week…you’d find me in the “I Want to Know Now” camp. Now 32 powerful first-person stories later, I’m a fully devoted convert to the “Glad I Didn’t Know” spiritual principles that ooze out of Vonna Laue’s life lessons book. This book may change your mind (and your heart).

JIM WEST (Chapter 22), cofounder of The Barnabas Group, was grateful he didn’t know—in advance—that after seeing a throat cancer doctor in 2022, the physician would urge him to go home and prepare his will and estate. “I am glad I didn’t know that God had this speed bump in front of me,” Jim writes in this stunning chapter. 

West says he prayed Joshua 1:9 hundreds of times each week—“a Bible verse I had often heard came alive for me”—while lying in the radiation tube about 45 minutes per session for 35 sessions (not a typo!). He lists four life lessons, including this: “…when people ask me what I could have done to better prepare myself for the battle,” he responds, “Memorize Scripture ahead of time.” 

The book’s format is brilliant—and each short chapter is perfect for spotlighting at your weekly staff meetings in 2025. Leverage the simple outline: a first-person account, followed by “Glad I Didn’t Know” thoughts, then “Life Lessons,” then three “Questions to Consider,” and a Bible verse. (The Scriptures are powerful.)

LARRY PROBUS (Chapter 9) describes being a new Christian and wrestling with the Lord about leaving his business career to become the CFO at World Vision US. He had read a biography about Mother Teresa and in the mid-90s while on a business trip in India, he met Mother Teresa. She asked him, “Tell me why you are in my country?”

Probus sheepishly responded with a very general “we are here on business.” (He did not want to reveal his purpose: to find a distributor for his company’s whiskey brand!) But the contrast of his agenda versus Mother Teresa’s calling was stark. (This is one of my 32 favorite chapters!)

Fast forward. Rich Stearns, president of WVUS at the time, invited Probus to become their CFO. Still wrestling one morning—even though his wife was onboard with the opportunity—he finally said yes. Why? When commuting to work that day, “a new billboard appeared on my daily route with a picture of Mother Teresa—and the words, ‘Reaching Beyond Yourself. Compassion. Pass it On.” He called his wife and said, “I give up. I think God is telling us we should do this.” (And LOL: Some years back, Larry Probus told me he suspected that Rich Stearns had put up that billboard!)

GLAD I DIDN’T KNOW features 16 riveting stories from women and men who have faced incredible challenges—yet unexpected blessings. Plus, author Vonna Laue, a CPA and consultant who specializes in the nonprofit space, weaves her own 16 stunning stories (stunning!) into this soul-grabbing book. 

Rich Stearns, also the author of The Hole in Our Gospel, endorses this book: “Glad I Didn’t Know will life your spirits, make you laugh, and encourage to let go of your fears and entrust them to Jesus. You’ll want to read it at least twice—and maybe twice a year.” I agree! This is also the perfect book to read unhurriedly on weekends (two or three chapters every weekend).

What? LAUGH about life challenges? Yes! Vonna Laue, somehow, sees the humor in her challenging personal stories and God’s touch (Chapter 1: “Quit a Job, Flood a House, Lose a Parent,” and Chapter 21, “You’re Fired!”). Her transparency is as memorable as her humor.
   • While caring for her mother in the hospital for a month, she also cared for her mom’s five chickens, four horses, three cats, and two dogs. “Though, by the time I was done, there were only four chickens. Don’t ask.”
   • When Vonna and her husband informed their two daughters (eight and four at the time), they were moving from Colorado to California, the oldest was upset and “left a note on our pillow that we were not allowed to move her to California and signed it, ‘The FBI.’” The four-year-old’s response? She started packing!

“LOST, LONELY, BROKE!” Edgar Sandoval Sr.’s story is featured in Chapter 3. You’ll see how his background prepared him uniquely for his current day job: president and CEO of World Vision US. “His own experience with hardship came at age 18, when he returned alone to the U.S. with only $50 in his pocket.” The verse for this story: Proverbs 3:5-6.

FRANCIS CHAN’S ROPE. In Chapter 15, “Gone Too Soon,” Laue shares the very sad story about her brother-in-law’s passing at age 42. She writes, “I’m glad I didn’t know that planning a funeral is like planning a wedding in four days…” One of her “lessons learned” features the poignant Francis Chan video with a long rope (aka “eternity”). View the video here:


Vonna Laue suggests you view this picture of today versus eternity in this sermon clip from Francis Chan (3.5 minutes).

CHIP WATKINSIn Chapter 19, Chip Watkins shares that he’s glad he didn’t know that his son, Mark, would die unexpectedly in 2015. If he had known, he reflects, “How you might dread the passing of each day, knowing you are one day closer to the death of your beloved!?” He adds, “With that in mind, I believe God is gracious and merciful in withholding this kind of exact knowledge from us. He gives us grace to walk with Him each day, day after day.”

One lesson learned: “Grieve well.” Watkins writes about remembering. “We have a leather jacket he once wore and that I occasionally wear. His brother now owns the car that once belonged to Mark.” This prompted me to remember the clip at the end of the documentary, “It All Begins With a Song” (start at 1 hour, 6 minutes in) on the writing of “I Drive Your Truck.”
 
MORE FAVORITE STORIES. Did I mention…my 32 favorite stories? Oh, my.

• LAURA WHITLEY’s story in Chapter 28, “Caring for Family,” prompted an out-loud “WOW!” when I read her soul-touching narrative about her father, a Marine, who shared the Marine motto: “The difficult we do immediately, the impossible takes a little longer.” You will not forget this story or the verse: Deuteronomy 31:8. (Note: Several very meaningful song lyrics are featured in these stories. Chapter 28 sent me back to a favorite of mine: “When I Go Home.”)

•  HEY, DAD! Follow JOHN REYNOLDS in his fast-rising career in South Africa, “with a macho roar, a sporty new Porsche convertible pulled up next to us.” His six-year-old son then asked, “Is that your next company car, Dad?” Read how that question changed the trajectory of his life. 

• “HERO COMPLEX.” One of two “name withheld” chapters, “Painful Realizations” recounts how a public health researcher living abroad has learned to “lay aside pride and the role I thought I should play in the Kingdom.” She faced down her “hero complex,” but notes, “It was surely an exhausting way to learn humility, but I am so much better off for it.”

• JERRY WHITE writes in “From Military to Missions,” Chapter 24, “I am glad I did not fully know the tensions in the work that I would face.” White served as president of The Navigators for 15 years. “Part of not knowing opened an avenue of trust and faith that no strategic plan could achieve.” Read why, “Suddenly, I was not a PhD, general, and president. I was a broken, hurting parent and follower of Jesus. A friend, not just their leader.” (Read Mary White’s account of the tragedy they faced.)

• BOARD SERVICE? I especially appreciate Vonna Laue’s chapter on being invited to serve on the board of World Vision US. She wondered if she would fit in. Around the table “there was a former governor, a CFO of a major US corporation, leaders of national and international ministries, PhDs and MDs, and, and . . . you get the picture.” Today she serves as board chair! 

She asks readers this question: “Is there any place you are holding back because you don’t believe you are _____ enough?” (Fill in the blank: good enough, smart enough, connected enough…)

WHEW! I don’t have room to share Stan Reiff’s story (“God Will Never…”) or the two questions his girlfriend (now his wife) asked him. This is my favorite chapter (along with the 31 other stories!) Order two books: one for you and one for a special friend or family member.

TO ORDER FROM AMAZON, click on the title for Glad I Didn’t Know: Lessons Learned Through Life’s Challenges and Unexpected Blessings, by Vonna Laue. And thanks to the author for sending me a review copy.


 
YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) Vonna Laue urges you to create your own “Glad I Didn’t Know” list that highlights your challenges and unexpected blessings. I’d suggest you title this, “Chapter 33” and list a favorite Bible verse that gives you comfort in the hard times. See also my review of When Kingdom Light Shines with this suggestion: After you’ve read all 60 short stories (or featured four or five stories at future weekly staff meetings), then host a gathering and call it, “Chapter 61.”

2) Review the Scripture verses highlighted in each chapter and keep them handy (see Jim West's story above). You, or a friend or family member, may need them. Memorize this one: “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” (Isaiah 55:8-9)

UP NEXT! Watch for my review of “Christmas Gift Idea #3”—The Spy and the Traitor: The Greatest Espionage Story of the Cold War, by Ben Macintyre. “The best true spy story I have ever read,” wrote John Le CarrĂ©.
 
    
Mastering 100 Must-Read Books
Part 18: The Final Four


Book #100 of 100: 
Experiencing God


For your team meeting this week, inspire a team member to lead your “10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning” session by featuring Book #100 in Mastering 100 Must-Read Books. (Yes! This is the final book in the series. Stay tuned for a new series in the next issue of Your Weekly Staff Meeting.)
Experiencing God (2021 Edition): 
Knowing and Doing the Will of God

by Henry Blackaby (1935-2024),
Richard Blackaby, and Claude King

 
Books #97 through #100 spotlight “the final four” books in this recommended volume of 100 must-read books. The authors write, “If Balaam lived in our formula-driven day, perhaps he would have written a book, Donkeys for Dummies…”
    • Order from Amazon.
    • Listen on Libro (11 hours, 3 minutes). Note: This audio version is from the 2009 book revision.
    • Download the 100 Must-Read Books list (from John and Jason Pearson).

“Please Cancel My Request!” In Mark 2, when the four entrepreneurial friends of the paraplegic man brought their friend to Jesus for healing, Jesus—instead—forgave the man’s sins. Meditating on that passage prompted Henry Blackaby to weep and pray, “O God, if I ever give You a request and You have more to give me than I am asking, please cancel my request!”
 

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The Culturally Conscious Board

 

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Issue No. 620 of Your Weekly Staff Meeting (Sept. 9, 2024) features a hot-off-the-press book on board governance that CHANGED my thinking. Plus, click here to see book recommendations in all 20 management buckets (core competencies).

I love this book—and it changed my thinking. But, really, the publisher should have sent along yellow highlighters. Or just to save us the time—they could have highlighted every sentence!

 
“Bylaws, Schmylaws!”

If you thumbed through my well-worn copy of The Culturally Conscious Board, you’d likely comment, “John! You’ve underlined something on almost every page!”

That’s right. The publisher should have packaged a highlighter and a pen with each book. With just 134 pages (no filler!), this book absolutely changed my thinking about board governance. Really. If you serve on a board, or plan to, this is a must-read:
 
The Culturally Conscious Board:
Setting the Boardroom Table for Impact

by Jennifer M. Jukanovich and Russell W. West (Sept. 3, 2024)
 
Leveraging the story of Crystal, a new board member at her first meeting of the fictitious City Farm board, the authors invite us inside this dysfunctional boardroom. (What? There are dysfunctional boards?) Every chapter begins with this continuing story of boardroom confusion, chaos, and a commonplace culture. Along the way, the authors poke, prod, and coach using real-life boardroom conflicts.
   • “How dare she? Doesn’t she know you aren’t supposed to speak at your first board meeting?”
   • The City Farm board’s cardinal rule was even more rigid: “Thou shalt not speak as a new board member for at least six meetings.”
   • “When your table culture can be reduced to the sum of all the minutes, roll calls, old business and seconded motions, then that is the only level of consciousness your board expects of itself.”
   • “Routine lulls into inattention. The trivial and critical get equal time.”

At one disastrous board meeting, Phil, the board chair, shockingly orders Crystal: “Calm down!” The authors add, “Phil had picked the wrong night to go parental on her. As he continued to mansplain the merits of the deal and what so-and-so said and to whom, Crystal retreated internally to have a meeting with both her tongue and her temper.”

The storytelling and the writing is superb—exceeded only by the depth of this important topic: the culturally conscious board. Jukanovich and West, both experienced leaders and board coaches, write, “We think of consciousness as a heightened focus provoked by our surroundings and experiences, enabling us to predict and participate with integrity in the world around us.”

This week, I emailed several experienced nonprofit leaders and consultants—and confessed that had I read this book years ago, my standard response on questions about “boardroom diversity” would have been dramatically different. This book changed my thinking. It’s never too late to change, right?

Bruce McNicol recommended I read The Culturally Conscious Board. I trust his judgment, but I wondered if this was just one more book on all things DEI. (Companies are now rethinking diversity, equity, and inclusion.) But then I was reminded about my favorite quote from Charlie Munger (1924-2023), “I never allow myself to have an opinion on anything unless I know the other side’s argument better than they do.” 

The authors—gently and persuasively—enriched my thinking and my worldview on what they call “Conscious Culture,” what’s ON the table (agenda, minutes, budget, and strategy) versus “Unconscious Culture,” what’s OFF the table (dependencies, triangles, groupthink, and gatekeeping).

What’s at stake? “Boards operate at half capacity when only at the transactional level that conscious culture tends to provide…” The authors note, “Boards operate at deep capacity governance, driven by a view of integrity that includes all that is conscious (mentionable) and unconscious (unmentionable).”

Who should read this book? Jukanovich and West describe their audience: “So, whether you:
   • are a fumbling, eagle-eyed start-up,
   • said yes but are unsure where to start,
   • will ever get the chance to attend a board training event,
   • are a seasoned board member suddenly in the hot seat,
   • wonder if you are doing any good by sitting in late-night meetings, bickering over a dollar,
   • are tired of constantly being the guest in a story that doesn’t appreciate yours,
we say, this book is written for you.”

With wisdom and wit, the authors describe the problem of boardroom dysfunction and mediocre outcomes—but they don’t leave us hanging. Crystal’s story leads us into “The Board Placemat”—a very helpful one-pager focused on “Five Essential Conversations” and fleshed out over five meaty chapters on Identity, Intention, Impact, Invitation, and Investment. (Click here to download the placemat.)


Download “The Board Placemat” tool from the authors’ website and discern when and how to use these convicting 25 true-or-false questions at future board meetings and board retreats.

“The Board Placemat” features five true-or-false questions for each of the five must-have conversations at your boardroom table. Each chapter dives deeper. Examples:

IDENTITY:
• “We make time to hear board members’ personal stories.” (True or false?)
• “What are the marks of heroes your organization celebrates?”
• “Who does your board turn to during hard conversations?"

INTENTION
• “We are convinced our theory of change makes a difference." (True or false?)
• “Could you draw your theory of change on a napkin…?”
• “…is everyone clear about what must be measured and why?”

INVITATION
• “We glean stakeholder feedback to lift our cultural blindfolds.” (True or false?)
• “How is the executive session used to ensure everyone has an opportunity to use their voice?”
• “How do you understand ‘diverse’ candidate pools? What voices are missing from the table?”

INVESTMENT
• “We model our missional engagement by participating financially.” (True or false?)
• “A board that has 100% member giving is the gold standard. How does your board encourage this?”

IMPACT
• “We harvest learning after events, milestones, fails and wins.” (True or false?)
• “Notice what your board celebrates and when.”
• “What are the feedback loops in the strategic planning process, as well as in board meetings?”

One of the more engaging conflicts in the book centered on a board assignment. “In this story, there were rumblings from the community about how decisions were really made. The leader forced an uncomfortable conversation on a divided board. He put the matter on the table by requiring all board members to read a book together. All would be invited to respond. This is where things got a bit messy.” (You’ll need to read this yourself, so no spoiler alert.)

Jukanovich and West note, “…it’s not the mentionable that cause the most problems. It’s rather the unmentionable aspects of unconscious culture that strengthen and weaken in their influence as long as they remain unnamed.” They add, “Wouldn’t you want to know where denial or negligence has caused culture to be a liability?”

I’ve always sought to inspire boards to be lifelong learners and to delegate their reading by inviting one board member per meeting to spotlight a board governance book. So…I loved that board chair’s assignment (but not the conflict that ensured!).

Now I have a problem! For ECFA’s governance blog, I wrote short reviews of 18 Best Board Books.” Now, I should probably edit those with two options:
• Option #1: Read 18 “Best Board Books” and add #19, The Culturally Conscious Board.
• Option #2: Skip the first 18 and just read The Culturally Conscious Board.

You’ll find practical alignment between The Culturally Conscious Board and other board books and training experiences. Examples:
• “Humility’s path requires attention and courage. It requires conflict even. Humility anticipates it can be wrong.” (See Book #18).
• On the critical role of the board chair, “These instances can sometimes resemble hostage situations, where the emotional tone of the group is dictated by the angriest or saddest person present. In these moments, true leadership is required." (See Book #12.)
• Note: Bob Andringa endorsed this book and his governance books also align with The Culturally Conscious Board. (See Book #10.)
• And…what a delight, as part of the color commentary on integrating values, to read of the authors’ appreciation for the values in Joy at Work, by Dennis Bakke (Book #21 in Mastering 100 Must-Read Books and my 2006 book-of-the-year).

In 134 pages, there’s not much space for theoretical musings. You’ll appreciate that and much more. The authors comment, “We learned of a board chair who remarked, ‘bylaws, schmylaws’ upon being questioned about financial discrepancies in staff reports.” Hence, they recommend helpful tools for what they call the board’s only job: to make decisions.

I know my friend and coauthor, Dan Busby (1941-2022) would have loved The Culturally Conscious Board. Our book, ECFA Tools and Templates for Effective Board Governance: Time-Saving Solutions for Your Board, will also be helpful when you’re ready to focus on putting the “unmentionables” on the table. Examples:
   • Tool #2: Board Nominee Suggestion Form (Avoid the “Friend of a Friend of Cousin Eddie Syndrome”)
   • Tool #5: The Board’s Annual Self-Assessment Survey (Look in the Mirror!)

Did I mention that this book changed my thinking? You won’t forget the metaphors, the helpful charts, and the zingers: mama’s bread, spinach, mirrors, parking lot politicking, revolving-door recruitment stories, tokenized checklists, and this: “As the saying goes, people do not quit jobs; they quit managers. We would add: they quit cultures too.”

TO ORDER FROM AMAZON, click on the title for The Culturally Conscious Board: Setting the Boardroom Table for Impact, by Jennifer M. Jukanovich and Russell W. West. And thanks to the authors for sending me a review copy.


BONUS: Click here to listen to (or read) the “On Board” podcast interview with Jennifer Jukanovich. And click here for several short videos with co-author Russell West (on LinkedIn).
 
 YOUR WEEKLY STAFF MEETING QUESTIONS:
1) The authors of The Culturally Conscious Board write that “A board that has 100% member giving is the gold standard.” (I agree…but I encourage boards to inspire board members with a platinum standard“Generous Giving.” Here, a board member affirms he or she has prioritized their giving so the organization is one of the “Top-3” recipients for the board member's annual giving. For more details, download “Tool #21: Board Member Annual Affirmation Statement.” (Note: It's not about wealth. Board members of any income bracket can do this.) What's our board's policy on board member generosity?

2) Here’s a link to short reviews of “18 Best Board Books.” What’s the best book your board has read—together—in the last 12 months? Is lifelong learning a staff and board priority? Here’s an idea: “Invest ‘10 Minutes for Governance’ in Every Board Meeting.” (Read Lesson 39, Lessons From the Nonprofit Boardroom.”)
 
    
Mastering 100 Must-Read Books
Part 16: Keys to Memorable Speaking and Writing


Book #90 of 100: Keys to Great Writing


For your team meeting this week, inspire a team member to lead your “10 Minutes for Lifelong Learning” session by featuring Book #90 in Mastering 100 Must-Read Books

Keys to Great Writing:
(Revised and Expanded)
Mastering the Elements of Composition and Revision

by Stephen Wilbers

 
Books #87 through #91 spotlight five memorable books to enrich your speaking and writing competencies. According to Stephen Wilbers, “Level 4” writing (the best) is “to write with such extraordinary insight and beauty that people will be reading what I have written one hundred years from now.” (How about…a week from now?)
    • Order from AmazonKeys to Great Writing
    • Download the 100 Must-Read Books list (from John and Jason Pearson).

The author's five keys to great writing will surprise you: Economy, Precision, Action, Music, and Personality.  Hum along: “One of the most important things you can do to sharpen your style is to reawaken yourself to the sound of your words, to tune your ears to the rhythm and cadence and flow of your language. It is in this context that you should ask, How can I make this music more pleasing to my readers? What techniques can I learn from accomplished writers? What techniques can I discover on my own?”
 

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IMPORTANT NOTICE! Effective Oct. 1, 2025, all 657 eNews issues, previously archived on Typepad.com are slowly (!) being moved to a new website here. New book reviews will also be archived at John Pearson’s Buckets Blog. Or, click here for John’s recent book reviews on Amazon.

Glad I Didn't Know

  Issue No. 630 of  Your Weekly Staff Meeting  (Dec. 11, 2024) suggests a powerful book with 32 of my favorite stories—a perfect gift book f...